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This meeting is a document

If nobody is going to disagree, decide, or create something, you have scheduled a live reading.

Meetings are for the things writing is bad at: disagreement, ambiguity, hard decisions, and repairing trust. Everything else is information transfer, and writing is better at that.

An hour with nine people is nine hours. Nine hours to hear a status update that could have been read in four minutes, at whatever time suited each person.

Why it lands badly

  • It's the most expensive format

    Multiply the duration by the attendees before you send the invite.

  • It's synchronous for no reason

    Information doesn't need everyone present at the same second.

  • It has no artefact

    A document still exists next month. A meeting mostly doesn't.

  • It defeats the quiet people

    The best thinker in the room is often the slowest to speak, and rooms don't wait.

Do this instead

  • Write the update

    If you can write the agenda, you can usually write the outcome.

  • Keep the meeting, cut the readout

    Send the doc first. Use the time only for the disagreement.

  • Halve it

    Thirty minutes produces roughly the same output as sixty. Try it once.

  • Say what a decision looks like

    If you can't write down what you're deciding, you're not ready to meet.

When it's completely fine

Someone needs to disagree out loud. It's sensitive, personal, or a first conversation. There's a real decision with real tension. You're building something together in real time. Or people just need to see each other, which is a legitimate reason — just say so.

Questions people ask

How do I say this to my boss?
Don't argue the principle. Offer the doc. "I've written this up — want to read it and only meet if something's off?"
Isn't some of this just team bonding?
Yes, and that's a good reason for a meeting. It's just not the reason on the invite.

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